Hair & Now

Early this morning on horseback, I was asked how often I coloured my hair.

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Because your hair is so dark, how often do you have to colour to keep the blond?

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Well I’ve only done it twice this year.  It’s been bleached…

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Have you ever gone all blond?  And how blond?  Yes, like blonder and paler than you!

Were you a bit of a punk then?  Well, I was living in New York… you know you do different things at different points in your life… (Note to self- ask husband if he thought I was a punk.)

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Hair for me, is truly a tricky hurdle one faces at mid-life.  With the failing eyes, you get help, start wearing reading glasses.  With skin, if you really must, there has to exist in Seoul, a doctor that won’t make you look too frozen.  Hair however is a harsh one.  I’ve tried some medicated spray to assist with hair loss.  My husband prescribed it to me.  For once, I was diligent with medication.  This diligence led to a hairy face.  Because growing a beard was not the objective, I ceased using that product, and simply bobbed my hair.

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Not all bobs are equal.  You need a stylist who can cut a bob with swing and edge.  Otherwise, a bob can look very ageing.

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Another riddle- what colour?  Here is a battle, the poor Asian woman especially, flounders at.  Because most of us have naturally dark hair (Black), and because of our skin tone (yellow), as the grey/white strands appear- one actually looks, unkept, or unruly.  So many Asian women simply colour their hair jet black, dark brown, or a red brown.  The irony is such a flat, atonal colour can be merciless, highlighting instead, the passing of time.

My mother was 49 when she became a grandmother.  She coloured and cut her own hair.

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In her 60s, she decided it was time to embrace the truth.

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Wearing her hair au natural however, meant funking up her dress style, and keeping her hair very short.

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The lesson here is, you lose hair colour, but you don’t have to lose, style.

At some point, my grandmother also threw out the hair dye.

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As she laid in her coffin, we all agreed, she looked amazing!

 

 

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